What is life when you are constantly hiding behind a mask. What is life when you feel like you can’t be yourself. What is life when you must pretend…You are living a filtered life.
In today’s post I want to chat with you about living an UNFILTERED life.
We live in a world where social media is the wave and if you don’t look a certain way or have certain things then you are not “IT”. We live in a world where with the press of a button you feel validated. The sad part is that you may not even know any of these people but because they pressed a button that means you are liked. There are lots of people who have fell victim to the whole “My social media likes validate who I am”, or “as long as I have the nice clothes and beat face of makeup I am beautiful”, or as I like to call it the “Filtered Lifestyle”. Many women dress up, put on make-up, and fix their hair just to get on-line and be validated by others so that they feel good about themselves. But what happens when you are not on-line, and you have no one to validate you. What happens when you take off the glitz, glam and photo filters. How do you feel about yourself? Let’s Chat about it!
When I started an Instagram page (back when everybody was just learning about it) everything I saw was people boasting about living a lavish life, taking flights, wearing the best brands that money could buy, women posted pictures of their bodies and just all the material things people boast about and I thought it was the cool thing to do. I did! I might as well tell my truth cause ya girl was lost in the sauce once before. I thought everything I saw on my feed was truth and I participated in it as well (Except for the showing bodies part. I am not that kind of girl). At first it seemed like the normal thing to do but after a while I begin to feel awkward. It became too much to try and keep up with an image that was not really me or what I represented. I often thought to myself how many of my followers were pretending as well. Eventually I deleted my page. I got tired of filtering my life just for others who I don’t know and probably will never know. Now don’t get me wrong, I know there are people out there who use social media for business purposes, so they must keep up a certain image, but I am only addressing the individuals who struggle with excepting who they are in the real world with out the glitz, glam, and social cyber world.
Fashion has been a passion of mine since I was a little girl and I have always wanted to work in the industry of fashion, but I can remember a time in my life when I used fashion as a way of hiding. Hiding who I was and how I really felt about myself. I remember the compliments that I got when I dressed up and how I allowed those compliments to validate my self-esteem because I was a wreck about my life and about me. Do you realize that many of the people you are following on social media may not love themselves, so they allow the hundreds or even thousands of likes they get daily to validate who they are? When you allow someone to validate who you are you are not healing the struggles you have you are merely placing a bandage over the problem and using someone else’s validation as a crutch. You see we must not leave our self-esteem in the hands of others instead we need to learn to love ourselves no matter what. God created us all and we are beautiful in his eyes according to Genesis 1:31.
STOP ALLOWING OTHERS TO VALIDATE YOU!!!!!
I know we all have insecurities I have a few myself but I don’t stress over them. I don’t think I’m not beautiful because of them either. Some people struggle with weight gain, acne, and crooked teeth, among other things, and that is perfectly normal. Those things can be corrected if need be. Ladies don’t let society tell you that the only way you can be deemed as beautiful is only if you are a size 0-8, have long extensions, perfect skin, and a face full of make up, among other things. Beauty is more than skin deep. The bible tells us “Your beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as elaborate hairstyles and the wearing of gold jewelry or fine clothes. Rather, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is great worth in God’s sight (1 Peter 3:3-4)”.
I don’t have the remedy to “loving yourself” but I do know what has helped me and continues to help me today, so I’ll share with you.
Always be Positive.
Unfollow anyone on social media if you are questioning your life based on their cyber life.
Outside of your fashion and beauty, follow as many Motivational, Empowering, and Positive pages as possible.
Always Think it.
Always Speak it.
Most importantly always Believe it.
If you don’t love who you are then you are not WHOLE. It is a struggle for many trust and believe I know it is, but you must learn that only you can make you happy. Gods love for us is unimaginable and if you allow him he will show you just how wonderful you are with or with out the filters. It is time for you to take back your life and be the strong, confident women you are!
YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL!
YOU ARE STRONG!
YOU ARE RESILIENT!
YOU ARE COVERED!
YOU ARE AWESOME!
YOU ARE POWERFUL!
YOU ARE UNIQUE!
NOW GO BE GREAT!!!!!!!
Unrazzled Life 🙂